It's a gorgeous day here - the sun is shining, the birds are chirping, and it was warm enough to leave my sweater at home. It's certainly not the weather that put me in a bit of a funk this morning ... and I'm not sure if that's the best way to describe my emotions anyway ... let me explain:
I've been the super busy burning the candle at both ends person. The one who feels under appreciated and over-worked as well as the one with that voice inside screaming "what about what I want? Does NOBODY care what I want?" When I was living that life, I thought I was doing a good job being mindful of others. I would talk about 'perception is everything' and I thought I was being careful of my tone, my body language, and choosing my words carefully. You get the picture. I felt like I was walking on a tightrope that was a bit frayed on one end - I knew eventually the darn thing was going to give and I was going to plummet toward the ground. I didn't think I would die ... I was counting on my friends, family, and faith to form a safety net to help me back up. The question is: Why would I want to get back onto the same tightrope?
That was a bunch of faulty logic and misdirected talent, but that's another day.
Today, a friend told me a story and I can imagine it's exactly the way others viewed me in my previous life. I want you to listen as I describe the person I never intended to be. Keep in mind, I appreciate reflecting on these things so I don't become that person on the tightrope again. I want to be the best me as I'm sure you want to be the best you. Please take this information and make sure you are taking care of YOU so that you can BE THE BEST YOU you possibly can be. Give yourself rest, healthy nourishment, fun, friends, and ask for help before you need it.
and now ... an example of how you wouldn't want others to see you...
*No one can get a word in edge-wise
*He/She doesn't listen and talks over people
*He/She complains that others aren't pitching in
*They always talk about mine mine mine or my my my instead of us and we references
*He/She makes hasty judgments and nasty comments about others
*I don't trust him/her
*His/Her delegating skills stink
*He/She gives vague directives like "someday" and "when you have time" then complains nothing gets done
*He/She rants and people tune out
*People can't wait to get away from him/her because of the negativity
It wouldn't be like me to leave you on a negative tone. So, the problem is clear in the examples above. The solution is taking proper care of yourself so you can be fabulously fabulous. And for the desired outcome:
*He/She is such a good listener - I lose track of time when I am with them
*When he/she has something to say it is usually a question or idea and not an insult or problem
*He/She lifts people up and makes them see the best in themselves
*They talk about we and ours instead of mine mine mine
*He/She is slow to judge and couldn't say a bad word about anyone
*I know my secrets are safe with him/her
*I don't mind pitching in because he/she gives great instructions and is approachable if I have questions
*People seem so engaged when he/she is speaking
*His/Her date calendar is always booked, people just crave time with him/her
Ah yes - sometimes knowing where we don't want to be can help us get where we want to go.
On that note - I'm going outside to play! (barefeet in the grass, because that's how I roll)
"May your paths be abundantly filled with lemons, sugar, sunshine, and a full date calendar with people who find you approachable!"