Pretty sure this is entry 9, but it's been a long day....I must say that I enjoy journaling challenge. And if you didn't catch the earlier post about what this is all about, how to join, etc...here it is again: http://www.createwritenow.com/
And here is what my entry for day 9 looks like:
What does your
inner critic say? What makes you think that you’re qualified to help
others do anything? You’ve got three loads of unfolded laundry stacked in your
basement, your lawn needs mowing, and your kids can’t find a pair of matched
socks!
How does your
inner coach respond? See pep talk below!
Remember – call on
your inner coach any time!!!
Pep talk:
Coach: Crystal – grab a cup of coffee and step into my
office. Why are you kicking your own ass? Aren’t there plenty of people out
there willing to question your abilities? Why are you joining them?
Me: Um…..I suppose….I just wish there were more hours in the
day.
Coach: What’s going to happen if the laundry isn’t folded?
Me: It might get wrinkled and it’s hard for everyone to find
what they’re looking for.
Coach: That’s not what’s bothering you, what else is going
to happen?
Me: My family might realize that I’m not perfect. They may
think “why is she taking those kids to the park,
beach, orchard, and stuff
instead of folding laundry? Where are her priorities?”
Coach: Why DID you choose to do the other things instead of
folding laundry?
Me: Because my kids aren’t going to remember if their
clothes were nice and pressed, they ARE going to remember picking apples,
swimming in Lake Michigan, and laughing with their mom. I feel like the laundry
will always be there, but the weather is nice and the kids are little now…and
they won’t always be.
Coach: So you’re comfortable with your decision to let the
laundry pile up?
Me: Yes
Coach: So what you’re uncomfortable with is other people’s
perception and their opinions abut you?
Me: Yes
Coach: Didn’t you mention something in an earlier session
that it’s none of your business what other people think of you?
Me: Yes
Coach: Would you stop being friends with someone who had
piles of laundry in their basement?
Me: No
Coach: Would you judge them as being lazy, dirty, sloppy, or
think any less of them?
Me: No – I probably wouldn’t even notice. If I did notice, I
wouldn’t care.
Coach: You wouldn’t care, because….????
Me: Because – it’s not what makes them a friend. I’m friends
with them because they are thoughtful, intelligent, funny, amazing, and I enjoy
spending time with them.
Coach: What makes you think they look at you any differently
than you look at them?
Me: um……..(speechless)
Coach: Tell that little negative voice inside to take a
flying leap – no one cares how many loads of laundry you have that need to be
folded, they don’t care how often or how well you dust, and they don’t care how
much money you have in the bank or how long your lawn is….they care about YOU
and don’t you forget it! Now the next time that doubt creeps in, you look in
the mirror and you say “I’m a great person, people like me, and I’m
focusing on what’s important to me, because I’m worth it!”
with that said - I bid you all good night - my coach and my inner voice and I are off to dream (while the laundry remains a mess in the basement)
May your paths be abundantly filled with lemons, sugar, sunshine, and little elves who fold and put laundry away while you sleep!
~Crystal
You rock!! Really you do.
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