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Motivation Monday #3 - 2025 It's okay to adjust your goals (some call it failing forward)


How are you doing on your health goals Crystal? How about your life goals? How about your mental health? How about your work career goals? 

Seriously, who are YOU and why are you asking?

Those questions seem fair enough when I'm on social media talking about authenticity, right? Well let me be perfectly honest and authentic with you right now - and I'll start from the bottom up:

My toenail literally removed itself from my foot I stubbed it so hard last week

My knees ache because it's 33 degrees BELOW zero and I'm fat

I haven't shaved my legs in days (see note about how cold it is)

I just took down my Christmas tree (not sure what that has to do with anything on my body - but there you go) and I'm still sad about the lack of merry-ness in my life

My butt is smaller than I'd like and my stomach is larger that I'd like (I remember being in 4th grade and my mother told me I looked pregnant...I was too young then, and now I'm too old - I think it's only ok to look pregnant between ages 20-40 and I am pretty sure I was pregnant most of those years anyway)

My boobs are no longer perky 

My shoulders are rounding as I near 50

My hair isn't gray (only because I spent $100 at the salon today)

My forehead and eyes are covered in wrinkles and my social newsfeed is covered with advertising for "frownies" and "botox"

My nose is too big

My eyes are too small

My teeth are too crooked

My ears are too big

My hair isn't as long as I'd like it to be and it's thinning

I talk to loud and too fast (since birth if you ask my mother)

I take up too much space and I'm too opinionated (also ask my mother)

I undoubtedly have ADHD and my mind is either going 80mph or I'm asleep and having wacky dreams

There you have it. The YMCA misses me and the one day I was there this week I didn't work out because my toe makes it painful to walk, so I relaxed and read a book on my phone. I wake up each day and make a list. By the time I'm done with my coffee, the list has been revised because someone needs something, something has been canceled, or...something is not working properly (sometimes it's my brain not working properly and I take a nap when I should be working). I'm trying to figure out what self care is and there's a part of me that thinks it's like a unicorn of mom-dom (like it's a great idea in theory but no one actually has experienced it).

I've chosen to take a different stance on life's little hiccups - let's call it failing forward. Like yes, Monday was a total loss, but I'm failing my way into Tuesday and I'm wildly optimistic that Tuesday is going to be good. I'm going to adjust my goals and instead of trying to be mom of the year, I'm just going to home that the majority of my children get to school on time. Instead of looking like a model, I'm going to smile like an axe murderer with my side part and mom pooch. Instead of looking toned and professional, I'm going to go for the leggings look. 

Why am I sharing this? Well...if you've got your shit together, you don't need my advice or affirmation, and we probably aren't friends, because my energy isn't all about that - so I assume if you're here reading this, you need to hear that you're doing okay. That surviving today is enough. YOU are enough. Did you go through a drive-through to feed your family tonight? Cool - no shame in that - thanks for keeping the economy going! Did you take time to make grass fed organic beef and home grown veggies in a non-GMO sauce containing no msg or gluten? Cool - but I don't honestly know what those words mean - ramen is yummy! (though I did recently find some healthier ramen that I'll review soon)

I'm just here today on MOTIVATION MONDAY TO CHEER YOU ON! 

YOU ARE A BADASS TODAY AND EVERY DAY!


Today's post was penned by Crystal J. Casavant

Crystal Casavant writes. Everything. If you follow her blog you have likely laid eyes on every thought she has ever had. Her debut novel, It Was Never About Me, Was It? is still a work in progress and shall be fully worthy sometime in 2025. She has written for WOW! Women on Writing, Bring on Lemons, and has been featured in several magazines and ezines relating to credit and collections as well as religious collections for confessional Lutherans. She runs a busy household full of intelligent, recalcitrant, and delightful humans who give her breath and keep her heart beating day after day. 

Crystal wears many hats (and not just the one in this photo) and fully believes in being in the moment and doing everything she can to improve the lives of those around her! The world may never know her name, but she prays that because of her, someone may smile a little brighter. She prides herself on doing nice things - yes, even for strangers! 

May your paths be abundantly filled with lemons, sugar, sunshine, and may you always remember the world is a better place with you in it and it's always a great time to embrace YOU no matter how messy you are!

xoxoxox
Crystal









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